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How to be the Hostess with the Mostest

Do you ever find yourself at an event or party and wonder how the hosts seem to have it together so well? They seem to be able to do it all! They refill drinks, they have everything you love somehow and they flutter from person to person throwing in the occasional joke or well thought-out life changing theory with ease. They are the type of people to make you feel at home and keep you coming back for more of that happy child-like happiness. If you wanted some tips for how to be that magical person this post is definitely for you!

Today, I want to share with you all my tips to master the art of being The Hostess with the Mostest!

Start by picking a theme. I know many people do a full theme for the whole event like Superheroes or Luau, but I am talking even simpler than that- like Taco Tuesday. Have something easy to plan your whole event around. This lets everyone coming know what to consider when contributing or dressing for the occasion and will give your guests some peace of mind so they don't show up so wound-up! We want our guests to arrive ready to have fun with us and this will keep them mellow all the way to their final destination with you! Once you have your event theme, pick a few items to fit the theme. If you are doing Taco Tuesday something as easy as a t-shirt or souvenir brought back from Mexico will help get your guests in the spirit. The main even is those tacos so you don't want to waste too much energy and ruin that!

So you have your theme, you have your "I don't want to taco about it" shirt picked out, now we need to get what the guests need upon arrival- their drinks! It is great to keep an assortment of refreshments available that both go with the theme and also ensure all guests have their favorites. If you have a particular mix like whiskey and ginger ale that pleases your crowd go for the two liter bottles to save some money! Some staples that I like to keep in stock and have always come in handy:
  • Sparkling and still bottled water- makes it so much easier to walk around and mingle!
  • Energizers like Red Bull for the people who have had to work all day- they will thank you!
  • Red and white wine- many people don't know their mood for these until they arrive.
  • Beer- can't go wrong with these especially when hosting poolside with grilled food!
  • One clear and one dark liquor. I keep vodka and whiskey on hand as those seem to be our most popular choices for our guests
After you get them in and a drink in their hand you want to get some music going to keep the awkward silences to a minimum. This will keep your guests comfortable even if you off answering the door or flipping the taco meat in the kitchen. I like to do an assortment based on the mood I want to keep the room at. If I am having a wine night with the girls I just need something casual in the background like the Lana Del Rey station on Pandora, but if you want to keep everyone pumped up you might want to give Today's Hip Hop Hits a try instead. Turn down for what? Nothing!!

So what goes well with your favorite drinks and music? Delicious appetizers! You need to tame the beasts while the main course is being prepared. I fear no one more than the hangry guest! You want these snacks to be easy to refill, portable and delicious. Chips and dip are good, but don't be afraid to add something new to the equation like a sweet and salty snack bar. Remember, you are trying to impress your guests! My most favorite appetizer accessory is the cheese platter! It has all the essentials- dairy, carbs, fruit and vegetable. Below is a photo of a recent platter I made for some of my favorite guests! Yummy, yummy in the tummy....

Finish up your tacos and get a line up going so your guests can pile on the good stuff. If you are doing something like tacos, make sure you try to get all the toppings possible. This will really make your guests feel at home. Things I would recommend for this specific theme:
  • Ground turkey for tacos- many people are trying to be healthy so help them out!
  • Sour cream or plain Greek yogurt
  • Shredded lettuce
  • Shredded cheese 
  • Tomatoes and/or salsa
  • Guacamole
  • Jalapenos
  • Variety of tortillas- soft and hard shell and/ or flour and corn
  • Rice
I also like to have a dessert for the end of the meal and also make enough for people to take home as a memento of our evening together. One of my most favorite go-to dessert items are funfetti cookies. Try not to drool too much over this visual:

So the guests are full  but the party hasn't stopped (hopefully) so now would be a great time to lounge around a fire and wind down or play some fun games. Again, easy and portable is the ideal type of game. I really like the electronic version of Catch Phrase. It is easy to pass around by the fire and gets everyone involved. This is also great as an ice breaker if you are just getting to know someone or adding some new friends to your wolf pack!

If you can plan ahead but remain flexible through the event you will always have a time to remember! Some other tips to consider throughout the whole event that will make your life easier:
  • Give your guests enough notice so they can plan accordingly. 
  • Get your shopping done early or accumulate items like cans of soda over time so you don's spend too much money at one time.
  • Clean as you go. You would hate to be up late cleaning or wake up to a mess!
  • Walk around and talk to everyone and find ways to get people a part of a cohesive conversation. Sitting around an island will really help set up this atmosphere.
  • Designate a wing-man to help monitor refills and other hostess duty. You need to go to the bathroom at some point, right?
  • Send your guests home with prepared goody bags of cookies or left overs from the night. It will help maintain your relationships because they will know you care and think of them! 
  • Lastly, always walk your guest out and make sure they leave safely. Nothing could be worse than ending the night feeling unimportant and you don't want people leaving your house that way!
I hope my cliff note version of the hostessing bible will come in handy for you. Remember, like many things, this can be mastered with practice. Try new ideas for food, themes and games to find what works for your guests so you can keep doing what they like and modify what they don't (the trainer in me talking here). Best of luck on your next event, be sure to tell me how it goes! Happy hostessing!

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